He would update me on graduate school, how happy he was to be back in his hometown, and his government job that he was enjoying. When I arrived, after months of planning this long-weekend trip, I knew something was up.There was a new girl in the picture, and she did know is that a day into my visit, I was treated like a burden. Emails, texts, calls—I am a little embarrassed to admit how long it took me to understand, he wasn’t ever going to respond. But losing your boyfriend your best friend is a whole different level of heartache. A few weeks after my engagement, flush with celebrations and congratulatory Facebook posts, he wished me a happy birthday. To my surprise he answered, and listened as I called him out on being a terrible friend, on ignoring me, on treating be like a bad breakup.
If you’re afraid your best friend will blow your cool guy rep [by telling all of your worst day ever stories], tell her what you do and don’t want shared. But every once in a while, try to include your best friend in your plans. This lets your friend decide if she wants to join or if she feels like the third wheel. Share the things you’re doing and the places you’re going. Look for similarities between the girls you love the most. Give your friend a reason to like your new girlfriend. We know you’re trying to put your best foot forward. We’re already worried you’re going to dump us now that you’ve got a new woman in your life. sharing secrets and inside jokes, making each other smile, being there for each other in times of need, etc.Sounds like a best friend is the perfect person for a relationship. Some may say that a true friend would not break up a happy relationship.So if you're asking yourself, here are 5 reasons you absolutely should.1. Let's face it: during the first few months of dating someone new, it's easy to hold yourself together and pretend like you don't have a dark side (everybody has one).You downplay your insecurities in hope that he won't see you as clingy, and you suppress the fact that you occasionally get moody, jealous, or pointlessly angry.