One of the men who showed up, about my age and suffering from impotence, shared that he pretty much has given up any hope of being with a woman for the rest of his life.
His thinking was what woman would ever want to be with a man who You could see the pain of resignation on his face.
His eyebrows will be perfectly combed and he will smell like he just bathed in a vat of cologne.
He will expect the same level of perfection from you, which might lead to criticism. On one date in Italy, the first thing a guy said when he greeted me was, “Wow! ”At first, I thought his candor was refreshing, and then I realized he was just a jackass.
While Italy is well-known for its food, art, and scenery, it's not exactly a secret Italian men have a reputation for being some of the most romantic in the world.Given that our own relationship fulfillment (emotional and sexual) continues to be beyond our most ardent dreams, we are always curious to see if other couples where the man has impotency are having a similar experience. Every woman we have interviewed over the years who has been with a man with E. or full impotence –and who has not slipped into despair or victimhood, describes them as “The world’s greatest lovers!” Okay, I know, this sounds very self-serving given my condition, but stay with me and you will see why this response is not that unusual.– – –See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World– – –One of the more rewarding things my Partner Jacqueline and I do is speak to cancer survivors and their partners around the country about regaining intimacy in the face of their cancer.Last Wednesday evening I was speaking to such a group in the wonderful town of Blue Ash, Ohio.