This is not a faceless corporation but instead a kind community with a leader passionate about improving the lot of its users. People have this impression that I have a full life. There’s a whole bunch of us academics walking around feeling alone. When I was in high school, I saw that alot of the people that I thought were my friends would leave me out of alot of things. This lonliness....sometimes, I SWEAR I'm dying from the inside out.I'm not sure why I'm doing this or what I hope to achieve..” When I got to campus, I said “I’m going to have to sacrifice and not have a social life for three years.” The potential for meeting someone and forming a relationship was close to nil. He thought I was too intense and stressed out all the time. ” There were just some things he couldn’t deal with, so the relationship ended. I cried in the last three years more than I ever have in my life. I don’t really want to do the club scene and I don’t feel like putting in the energy for dating.I’m more sensitive now and I want to draw closer to family. as a city and I can actually see myself living here long term, but socially it’s been really bad. I tried dating academics, but I found those kinds of relationships were too intense.No Longer is different in that everyone on there has a mental illness. By creating this inclusive community our users can rest assured that each user on the site is sensitized to the particular challenges of managing a mental illness.The site was established in 2004 and since then has been operated by a single individual with a diagnosis of schizoaffective disorder.
If someone asks you how you’re feeling and you say fine, although a bit lonely, be prepared to have them either laugh at you, berate you, ignore you or turn away. Some of us have lived life and it shows on our body...Most of them don’t have their own car or anything like that so that makes a difference. You’re not gonna get harassed for saying, “I have delusions.” How important are relationships and love, do you think, for this community? First of all, I’m a little bit skeptical about the drugs they give people. I remember the second time I brought her to my apartment I was like, ‘I’m so glad I don’t have to hide my pill bottles anymore.’ She looked at me kind of crazy, like ‘Why would you hide them from me?The artwork—that’s an area that didn’t take off as much as I thought it would. A sizeable percentage of those probably haven’t been on the site for a while. The big stat is the amount of marriages that I’ve had with the site. I think professionals in the field discount the importance of relationships. I don’t think they work nearly as well as they advertise them to. Robert Whitaker shows that you need drugs in the short term to medicate somebody and bring them back to reality and stuff, but the long-term use of these things creates chronic conditions. Do you think that people with mental illnesses can only have a true bond with someone else who has a mental illness? ’ and I was like, ‘Wow, I guess there are people out there who are understanding.’ Are you still together? But you wouldn’t say it was because of your mental illness?I was alone, diagnosed with depression, and felt that my single status had everything to do with my ambition. two years ago because I felt it was a place where I could do my scholarship and have the possibility of having a social life. The primary focus of their day-to-day lives was their academic work.It’s been ten years since James Leftwich first created No Longer Lonely, a dating website exclusively for people with mental illnesses. No Longer Lonely has chat rooms, forums, and places for people to post their art. I did model it after the major dating sites, but I added certain categories too, like housing options for Section 8 or ‘I live with my parents’ or ‘I live in a halfway house.’ I thought it was important to have a category for ‘Do you own your own transportation? I’ve had very few people that come on there as a joke or prey on the users, at least that I know of. Do you mind saying what you’ve been diagnosed with? After I was hospitalized, I went to a halfway kind of house. It’s kind of like in prison, where the child molesters are this and the rapists are that and the murderers are that. I don’t want to hang out with him.” That was the main thing of the site, to defeat the stigmas. Connect with people that are experiencing the same thing as you.’ I think that’s equally as important as all those other things.