The Bedroom Cape Town has been a dream of mine for three years, I have wanted to make The Bedroom a national brand for ages and despite my efforts something always cropped up; family, not wanting to leave my amazing group of friends in Durban and a million other things.
Six months ago I decided it was finally time to get off my bum and do something about it.
You could extend this to making lists of words you feel comfortable, or turned on, using and a separate list of ones you dislike, and would prefer a partner to avoid.
To do this you might want to explore: Masturbation on your own or with a partner Exploring fantasies Sex advice books can offer ideas you might like Mapping your body: Draw an outline of your body (front and back) and colour in where you love being touched and what parts are off limits.
Alternatively you can use a ‘traffic light’ system where you use stickers or colours of red (stop), amber (so-so) and green (let’s go!
’ It’s not the first time I’ve been called that, and usually I just keep smiling and stay silent. Recently, in two separate courtrooms, both Dave Lee Travis and Bill Roache had been denounced as ’dirty old men’. ’ or two too many for my ex’s taste — but did I deserve to be branded a dirty old man? When I was a teenager I always swore that I would never grow up to be a dirty old man — like my dad.
Whenever I found him with his arm around some woman I used to say to him, mimicking the voice of Harold Steptoe, ‘You dirty old man! I remember the horror of seeing him on the floor of the Groucho Club after he made a puckered-lipped lunge at a woman — and missed and fell off his bar stool.