Rachel from New York University says that her flirtationship with a longtime guy friend Hunter means having someone to depend on.“Hunter is always someone I can rely on to listen to me when I need to talk out something,” she says.However, I'm not attracted to him in a romantic way. How can I let him know I'm not interested, but maintain our friendship? Once the cat is out of the bag, it is very difficult to put him back in.First of all, he probably worked up a great deal of courage to let you know how he feels.Or (worst-case scenario) they can fall apart completely, leaving out the idea of a possible relationship and the friendship too awkward to fall back on. It sounds like flirtationships can get emotionally complicated, and they can.But sometimes, they can be an easygoing alternative to a relationship.In a few days, I’m going to Cuba on vacation with a guy I’ve been sleeping with for eight years, but whom I've never once called my boyfriend.
So what is it about the friends with benefits dynamic that is more sustainable, and often more transparent, than an actual relationship? They’re like: How can you have sex with the same person, again and again, without falling in love? George, My close friend of many years confessed that he wants more than a platonic relationship.I enjoy spending time with him and I don't want to ruin our current bond. My guess is he's not going to be happy with the status quo.We work in the same field and our bond is not only personal, it’s professional. I witnessed it in action with the last girl he dated. And then, this was the thing he said that stumped me: “We’re such great friends and I think we would be such a great couple, but I can’t figure out how we get from one to the other.” That shut me up. Trust me, I have faced more than my fair share of dating dilemmas in my love life, and I’ve usually known (or at least been able to eventually figure out) how to handle them. One of the members of this group is a guy that has been a close friend of mine for the last two years. When he declared his feelings, or attraction, or whatever, he followed that up immediately by saying that he was afraid that he would hurt me or let me down in some way.