Valuing Someone For Who They Are We seek people out with the specific agenda of getting into a relationship, rather than just enjoying the opportunity to get to know someone over time.
In doing so, however, we inadvertently put a lot of pressure on the relationship for things to work out in just the right way — and then we get hurt and frustrated when that doesn’t happen.
In fact, it's so subtle they don't even notice it's happening until the moment a kindly hug becomes loaded with intention.When I was a kid, my mom taught me two rules of grocery shopping.First, never shop when youre hungry everything will look good and youll spend too much money. Ive got the first rule down, but I havent had much success with that second rule.I seem to have a knack for picking rusty grocery carts that make clattering noises or ones with squeaky wheels that grate on your nerves like fingernails on a chalkboard. You want to go in a straight line, but the cart wants to swerve to the left and take out the cat food display.But by far the worst kind of cart you could pick is the swerver. (And, much to our dismay and embarrassment, it too often succeeds!